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Chofetz Chaim – A Lesson A Day –

Praise in The Presence of The Adversary…

The issue of loshon hara (wicked speech) continues to arise lately. I have not spoken on the topic of loshon hara in a long time. I have had to wrestle with my own flesh in order to subdue this deadly, destiny destroying behavior. The temptation has been rearing its ugly head with several people lately, including myself, which tells me it’s time to address it again.

“Never offer praise in the presence of an adversary” (Page 118).

The Chofetz Chaim teaches that it is forbidden to praise someone in the presence of anyone who is known to dislike them. They are just waiting to pounce!

It opens the door for anyone listening who dislikes them, to seize an opportunity to say something negative about the persons shortcomings.

There are times when you are acutely aware that the person in question has enemies all around. There are also times when you may not know. They best course of action is to constrain your tongue, even if you want to offer praise. Why?

Because it leaves a pit for the adversary to fall into and this pit dies damage to their own soul. It’s just something that we do not want to be a party to.

The Praiseworthy Person…

The praiseworthy person can wait for you to seek a better moment in time to extend your gratitude or praise when the adversarial soul will not be in ear shot and tempted beyond their ability to resist speaking loshon hara.

So, What Do We Do About Philippians 4:8?

“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”

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Be wise. Pay attention in the moment. Be vigilant. We always need to remember that we have to know those that we labor among. Paul tells us to, “Think on these things…“, which means we can save those lovely things for another time. We do not always have to blurt out everything we think at the time.

Be aware of the atmosphere you are in at the time and be slow to speak. The right time for praise will present itself and the person to whom you would offer praise will not have to suffer their moment being snatched away by negativity, insults or another person’s pride or enmity.

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Remember: loshon hara affects the souls of at least 3 people… In this case Yourself, the person you’re speaking about (or trying to praise), and the people or persons that are listening.

We are in the business of caring for souls. Let nothing come between you reaching the highest pinnacle of power in your comprehension of GOD and His Word. Especially, our own tongues.

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Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile. Depart from evil, and do good; seek peace, and pursue it. The eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous, and his ears are open unto their cry. Psalm 34:13-15

Key Words:

  • Chofetz Chaim: seeker of life
  • shmiras haloshon – guarding the tongue

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ELUL, ON THE 10TH DAY OF PRAYER. Who Do You Say That I Am?



Psalm 105:

Bless the LORD, Oh MY Soul. LORD You Are Very Great. You are clothe with honor and majesty!

You cover yourself with light as with a garment, and shed light on us…so we can be Your Light on earth! How much You trust us with Your Light.

LORD, just as you have set a boundary that the waters can not pass over, that they not cover the earth again…

The sun does not rise or set, except by Your Word. It shall stay its course,

The moon shall rise and set, there shall be no deviation from its path, the clouds shall be your chariot, You shall walk upon the wings of the wind, You make the angels spirits and a flaming fire, the foundations of the earth shall not be moved…

This far and no further….

At one time the waters stood above the mountains. At Your rebuke they fled, and the thunder hasted away. You appointed the moon for seasons, and the sun knows when to go down…

You hide Your Face and we are troubled…You take away our breath and we die and return to dust… You send forth your spirit and we are created, and recreated, born and born again.

At Your thought, the world renews itself and gives us a home on earth that sustains us.

Now LORD, we have given our leaders enough time, we have looked to them for guidance and found none.. we have waited for their science to solve our pandemic… they asked for 2 years, or 18 months for vaccines so that they can bring this epic-epidemic to an end.

Clearly, they have no solutions…we are to wash our hands and wear a mask. It’s the least we can do, and the best they can offer and I completely understand…they are out of their depth. We have funded WHO’s and CDC’s for decades and the world stands spellbound in the hands of men.

Don’t Let Us Fall Into The Hands of Man ….

Science does need time and good people are working diligently to bring us a solution. Countries are jockeying for position, “Who shall be first with a cure”, as if its a competition. Some are even dismissing the efforts of other countries, saying they don’t have the brain power, wisdom, skill or science to produce a cure. Once again, racial bias wants to dominate and determine not only, who lives and who dies, but what color can find a cure. Some are more concerned with the color of the cure than saving many people alive!

But You Oh LORD, are a shield for us, our glory and the lifter up of our heads

The world needs more time…

But You LORD, can make an end in a day!

Just as you have set the boundaries for the elements, the world, the sun, the moon and the stars, just as You have set the boundaries for the waters, on earth and in Heaven,

Agree with us tonight LORD… set the boundaries for this pandemic,

Dispatch your angels to set every cell of they virus on fire…. we curse every molecule to its root!

We decree and declare, that covid must die… we declare divine reversal..

The world needs 12-18 more months to attempt a best solution,

All we need is a Word from the LORD… All we need is strong agreement.

All we need is 2 or more in complete agreement, steadfast in prayer, consecrated, dedicated believers.

There are nearly 9 billion people on earth. There must be 2 who agree, and will not come into ungodly agreement with a plague. Who will not give it any quarter, any room for expansion.. who will hear every news report and forecast and cast those words down into the pit, like vain imaginations, and every high thought that sought to exalt itself above the knowledge of the Most High GOD!

There must be 2 Witnesses to the Power of GOD in their lives and who can speak that same anointing onto the world! There must be someone healed from the incurable, the impossible, the diabolical. There must be at least two people that can stand with us and shout, this far and no further!

Who will agree with me and call this thing illegal, its reign of terror over, its assignment cursed to the root!

Our sons and daughters and children’s grandchildren shall live. Our parents and grandparents shall not be susceptible, we bind this predator off of their homes, their lives, we decree and declare they shall be still, they shall abide under the protection of the Most High GOD, Everyone assigned in their lives shall proceed with great care and wisdom concerning their care, their lives, their handling…

Nothing by no means shall harm them. Enough!

This thing seeks our lives, to attach itself to our lungs and suffocate.

We decree that covid must die, we suffocate covid with prayer, fasting and consecration, with our faith and trust in GOD.

We suffocate and destroy every assignment of the enemy by faith in the WORD of GOD that proceeds out of our mouth. With every thing the enemy finds foolish in our prayers, we say, “Watch, and see how the LORD, GOD, ALMIGHTY, comes for our word in prayer to perform it! We have seen the Goodness of GOD in the Land of the Living and we shall see His Goodness over and over again!

We draw a line in the spirit realm and everyone under the covering of our prayers, on our prayer list, on our hearts and minds, shall be covered, included, blessed and highly favored!

While praying this prayer, I hear the teaching from 1 Samuel 18 when Elijah said that the GOD who answers by fire, let Him be GOD.

24 And call ye on the name of your gods, and I will call on the name of the Lord: and the God that answereth by fire, let him be God. And all the people answered and said, It is well spoken.

I’m hearing Zechariah 4:2-3, when the angel woke him out of his sleep and asked him, “What sets thou?”

And I said, I have looked, and behold a candlestick all of gold, with a bowl upon the top of it, and his seven lamps thereon, and seven pipes to the seven lamps, which are upon the top thereof:

 And two olive trees by it, one upon the right side of the bowl, and the other upon the left side thereof.

By Your WORD, I ask for healing of the earth, the atmosphere and Your People… All the souls that you have given us to care for. I ask for healing in our every breath. Cleanse us LORD, as You cleanse from all unrighteousness. I ask that You agree with me, with us…with Your People. We put You in remembrance of Your Word, LORD, ask that covid cross no more boundaries.

covid must turn and die.

(Isaiah 43:26. “Put me in remembrance: let us plead together: declare thou, that thou mayest be justified.”)

Zechariah 4:

10 For who hath despised the day of small things? for they shall rejoice, and shall see the plummet in the hand of Zerubbabel with those seven; they are the eyes of the Lord, which run to and fro through the whole earth.

11 Then answered I, and said unto him, What are these two olive trees upon the right side of the candlestick and upon the left side thereof?

12 And I answered again, and said unto him, What be these two olive branches which through the two golden pipes empty the golden oil out of themselves?

13 And he answered me and said, Knowest thou not what these be? And I said, No, my lord.

1Then said he, These are the two anointed ones, that stand by the Lord of the whole earth.

We plead for the souls LORD, together, with One heart, one mind and one spirit. All we can offer is prayer, we have no science but The Lord of Host. Who is near and not 12 or 18 months away. ALL OF OUR CONFIDENCE IS IN YOU!

Send us two anointed ones, and even more LORD, that will stand by this prayer, as with the LORD of the whole earth and the GOD who answers by fire, He is GOD!


TalkTorahToMe.CAFE. –Our Speech Can Be A Lethal Weapon or A Means to Salvation.

During the Month of Elul, Stay The Course!

LEV 19:16-18

16 Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people: neither shalt thou stand against the blood of thy neighbour; I am the Lord.

17 Thou shalt not hate thy brother in thine heart: thou shalt in any wise rebuke thy neighbour, and not suffer sin upon him.

18 Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself: I am the Lord.

loshon hará ~ evil speech

…is language that does harm to another. Loshon hara is a profane use of the tongue, language that does harm to other nations and people. Loshon Hara is speech – a wicked and perverse form of lspeech that harms our own futures and threatens our destiny- neutralizing and undermining our power in prayer.

We are very familiar with lotion hara, even though we may have never heard it called by that name. We’ve seen the devastation it causes to another person’s spirit. It’s very familiar.

During this Month of Elul, (August 20 – September 17)

…We are going to keep our eye on our tongues…standing the watch over our own speech. No form of evil speech will escape our tongue. No gossip, no murmuring, so chiding or complaining, no slandering, no rebukes, no grudges, no insults, no toxic or poisonous language of any kind.

We will not allow our personal Panina’s to provoke us while we are on our spiritual journey to the Temple of GOD (1 Samuel). During the Month of Elul, we are on a mission!

We are doing this for a few reasons:

  • We are determined to elevate spiritually to a new level.
  • Our speech can elevate us or block us in regards to our ability to obtain that higher level.
  • Our words have power, (It’s time to really believe that). and that power can only be released through holy speech.
  • Our speech is the foundation of all of our prayers and…
  • Your prayers are essential. People need your prayers. Your neighbor needs your prayer, right now. Your prayers can mend the World.

Man was Created a Speaking Spirit...

We discussed this last year in setting the stage for our classes. (Highlights of that teaching can be found in MAN IS A SPEAKING SPIRIT )

Gen 2.7 “And the Lord God formed man of dust from the ground, and He breathed into his nostrils the soul of life, and man became a living soul.

You will recall, the portion of the verse that reads “man became a living soul” actually reads, man became a speaking spirit.

It is right in this moment that the speech of mankind became Holy.

Your speech is meant to be Holy, to Glorify GOD, to Bless and not curse, to edify and encourage, to tear down (strongholds) and to build up (each other), and so much more good than we can ever imagine!

Our words (and prayers) have no limitations in the spirit. We’ve seen what our words can do in the natural. How much more could they accomplish when we consecrate our words and prayers to GOD?

What makes language holy is that it was given by GOD only to mankind. If we take something as pure and Holy as Language, our gift from GOD, and use it in a profane manner; to hurt, condemn, criticize, offend, destroy, etc. then we corrupt GOD’s language and disrespect GOD.

Gen 2:15 “And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.”

“to dress it and to keep it” from the Hebrew Language is “to avad, to serve and to keep watch, guard/protect. Ref: Adam was not in Agriculture…

Our ears (as Christians) are atuned to hearing, “to dress it and keep it” for so long that we might miss the charge of what GOD really assigned Adam to do.

No where else in scripture is there support for an understanding that Adam was a horticulturist, agriculturalist, etc.

When I speak of this to some students, they feel like the word of GOD is being rewritten before their eyes and it’s very hard to process.

Was Adam a Worshipper or a Farmer?

Was his responsibility to guard and protect the anointing, to praise and worship, to draw closer to GOD? Or to grow plants and vegetables?

What we do find support for in scripture is that Adam was a worshipper, his service was to GOD. That his job was to guard and protect the anointing, that he was to protect GOD’s creation, all of it. (Disobedience affected his ability to carry our his assignment too).

Adam had work to do, certainly. But it was a spiritual kind of work in service to GOD, Avodah. Avodah has been interpreted in scripture as physical work. What I want to focus on instead, is our first work. Before caring for fields and gardens. Before building and creating and inventing.

We have the assignment to build and create with our words.

Getting our speech back in right alignment to GOD, is going to make all the difference in the level of effectiveness and fervency of our prayers.

How far we can go walking in the anointing will all begin and depend with our speech.

Mankind is a speaking spirit. Our words have spiritual impact. GOD created the world through the spoken word. Our speech can build up or tear down this creation.

Speak life and live.


ELUL… Seasoning Our Words With Salt


Knowing that our words should be seasoned with salt- the whole entire time— Elul, places a special requirement on us to evaluate and recalibrate every word that comes out of our mouths.

With dedication and discipline, applied in this process, we will become masters at apprehending our thoughts before they even slip out of our mouths as words.

Her’s a short torah teaching for you on this eve of Rosh Chodesh Elul, The Head of the Month of Elul


One man spread a rumor about another.

He later felt regret, and went to the rabbi to ask how to make amends. “Go to the store and buy a bag of seeds,” said the rabbi, “then go to a big open field and scatter the seeds into the wind. Do so and report back to me in a week.”

The man did as he was told, and came back the next week to find out what to do next. “Now,” said the rabbi, “go back to the field and pick up all the seeds.”

“But,” the man protested, “those seeds have scattered far and wide! I’ll never find them all. Many have even already taken root!”

“Exactly,” explained the rabbi. “Now you understand. When we speak badly about another person, the effect is far and wide. And it is damage that can never be fully undone.”

Proverbs 18:21

Death and life are in the hand of the tongue: and they that love it, shall eat the fruit thereof.

The Sages of Old explained it this way….  ”Negative speech is even worse than a sword—since it kills many people, even at a great distance.” (Talmud, Arachin 15b)

Evil Speech (loshon hara) is equivalent to murder. The Talmud teaches that evil speech  (gossip) is like a three pronged tongue which kills three people: the person who says it, the person who listens to it and the person about whom it is said.   

We know this to be true because we have seen people carrying the weight of someones words around for decades. We have seen words break another persons spirit, causing such spiritual harm, that some have barely survived.

Remembering hurtful words from their childhood and re-experiencing them on a recurring basis, even nursing the words in their heart. Never letting them go. They nurse and rehearse these words to such a degree that they torment their own souls.

This Elul, we shall walk away from the pain of the past and the witchcraft of words.

Tonight as we pray, we will gather up all the seeds of words we have misplaced and misspoken, every word that hurt, insulted, or harmed in anyway.

We ask the LORD to bind up every wound we have inflicted upon anyone with our words.. intentionally, or unintentionally. Help me LORD, and heal all that I have harmed.

For every heart we have broken we repent, and ask the LORD to replace our words in their hearts and minds with healing words of love, kindness and tender mercies.

I pull down every stronghold I have built up over my life and anyone else through the careless use of my words. I strip away the very sound of any and every hurtful word that I spoke from their ears and from their hearts.

In these 29 days of Elul, I dispatch my prayers to root our every hidden place that my words have done damage. Heal me LORD, of any particle or residue of anger that caused harsh words to fall from my tongue toward my neighbor. I command my flesh to be silent, to speak sparingly, to submit to the wisdom, knowledge and counsel of the Most High GOD through His Word.

I Decree and Declare this very day, that my words shall become seasoned with salt. AMEN.


Let your speech be always with grace,  seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man. Colossians 4:6 KJV